Wednesday, July 15, 2009

Connections...

Something that I love to do is get friends from different times and areas of my life to meet. Well, I did just that today. It was fun, but also awkward. I realized that I need to learn better how to direct conversation. Like, "You know Judy, you and Trudy have this and that in common!" Then maybe they would start up a conversation about some related topic. I was never interested in ice-breaker games, but maybe I should start with those. Haha...

I am definitely a more one-on-one person. Not so interested in large groups and never the life of the party...except for September 2, 2006! I do occasionally have some quick wit in a large group setting, but can never seem to butt into the conversation without raising my hand as if to say, "I have something to say. Pick me, pick me." This is quite rare that it must be brilliant, of course! Well, never mind I guess not so original for that person sitting next to me happened on the same comment. Hmm...

As you can also tell by now, I do not have very clever humor-writing skills either. You know, it just occurred to me that I am really just making fun of my Maker, making me the way I am. All I really meant to do was say that I would like to work on my people-connecting skills. You know what? Honestly, more often than not, I am so very thankful that I can't get a word in, or that I don't just blurt out anything that comes to mind. It is actually quite a blessing to not have to taste my feet more often!

So, any suggestions on how to make the awkward silences not so awkward? Any non-icebreaker-icebreaker games? Comments, critiques, questions???

1 comment:

Shaina said...

I wish I had some tips for you but I'm in the same boat! I'm the same type of person as you are I think.. quiet most of the time and I only speak when it is absolutely necessary haha. I'm definitely a one-on-one person too, unless I know everyone in the group or crowd very well, such as at my Wedding or Bridal Shower :)

I do have one tip actually!

When I introduce friends to each other, I'll usually start a conversation with one and bring up a topic that we normally talk about, but one that I know the other friend will be interested in hearing, then I use that as a jumping off point to ask the other friend if they can relate. Usually they can, and if not, then they are at least interested in finding out about the other friend. Then I guess you switch it around.